I know a lot of Dungeon people don't appreciate long posts in the forum, so move along I guess, or hate me in the comments...
Getting Back with an ex girlfriend is usually not a great idea. Statistically it rarely works out. While I couldn’t find an exact percentage by searching around on the internet, experts seem to agree it’s between 40-50%. And of those only 10-15% actually stayed together for the long term.
The main factor to impact if couples got back together had to do with the reason for the breakup. If the reason included abusive, negative, or point-of-no-return type behavior, then the likelihood of reconciliation for the long term was low... nobody wants to repeat the same problems. But if there were life circumstances that broke them up, and not necessarily poor behavior, those were the folks I believe that were figuring it out.
A lot of people have been using the ex-girlfriend analogy concerning Scott Frost and his potential reunion with UCF. And a Frost hire could be a good business decision for points discussed in other posts, but his failures at Nebraska are legit concerns. The anti-Frost crowd claim he's just a nostalgia pick, based on emotion. So let's lean into that a little bit. Here. I’ll use a more specific "girlfriend that got away" analogy...
Imagine you met the love of your life and had the most amazing run of relationship success. She was perfect for you and you for her, only she told you she MIGHT have to go home someday as part of an arranged marriage. But you didn’t care, you loved her in that moment and thats all that mattered. Everything came easy for a couple of years, and the love grew into an amazing success. Then one day she says to you: “ Listen, I didn’t think it would happen, but I’m being called home and I cannot let down my family.” You’re absolutely devastated, but you understand, you knew this could happen. You love her so much that you let her go. She breaks your heart.
Fast forward seven years. You’re single, a little bit down, and with a couple of seriously mediocre relationships in the rear view mirror since your real love left you. The new girls were ok, nice ladies, good people. But neither made your heart beat faster. They weren't the right fit. You still think about the one that got away all the time. AND you know she’s not happy. In fact, her arrangement fell through, and her father had passed. She’s now free to do whatever she wants. She didn’t handle being away from you very well. She in fact make some poor decisions. But that’s all in the past now. She’s telling you she’s sorry. She’s admitting she should never have left you. She’s being humble. On top of this, she’s coming back super rich. Like she can’t even hurt you financially. You know in your heart you still love her, you always will.
I know a lot of people are saying "you don’t go back to ex’s", and "look what happened in Nebraska"… I think you mean well with your commentary. But given the chance to right a wrong, reconcile a love lost under favorable circumstances. I just think most people would go for it. I realize UCF shouldn't make coaching decisions based purely on emotion, and I hope TMO is doing everything he can to secure the best coach possible. But I thought I'd have some fun with the ex girlfriend narrative for those of you that like to read. And I say let’s go get Frosty, because he fits. It's just as simple as that. If it doesn't work out there will be up-n-coming OC's and G5 HC's to choose from in a couple years, just like there are now.
Getting Back with an ex girlfriend is usually not a great idea. Statistically it rarely works out. While I couldn’t find an exact percentage by searching around on the internet, experts seem to agree it’s between 40-50%. And of those only 10-15% actually stayed together for the long term.
The main factor to impact if couples got back together had to do with the reason for the breakup. If the reason included abusive, negative, or point-of-no-return type behavior, then the likelihood of reconciliation for the long term was low... nobody wants to repeat the same problems. But if there were life circumstances that broke them up, and not necessarily poor behavior, those were the folks I believe that were figuring it out.
A lot of people have been using the ex-girlfriend analogy concerning Scott Frost and his potential reunion with UCF. And a Frost hire could be a good business decision for points discussed in other posts, but his failures at Nebraska are legit concerns. The anti-Frost crowd claim he's just a nostalgia pick, based on emotion. So let's lean into that a little bit. Here. I’ll use a more specific "girlfriend that got away" analogy...
Imagine you met the love of your life and had the most amazing run of relationship success. She was perfect for you and you for her, only she told you she MIGHT have to go home someday as part of an arranged marriage. But you didn’t care, you loved her in that moment and thats all that mattered. Everything came easy for a couple of years, and the love grew into an amazing success. Then one day she says to you: “ Listen, I didn’t think it would happen, but I’m being called home and I cannot let down my family.” You’re absolutely devastated, but you understand, you knew this could happen. You love her so much that you let her go. She breaks your heart.
Fast forward seven years. You’re single, a little bit down, and with a couple of seriously mediocre relationships in the rear view mirror since your real love left you. The new girls were ok, nice ladies, good people. But neither made your heart beat faster. They weren't the right fit. You still think about the one that got away all the time. AND you know she’s not happy. In fact, her arrangement fell through, and her father had passed. She’s now free to do whatever she wants. She didn’t handle being away from you very well. She in fact make some poor decisions. But that’s all in the past now. She’s telling you she’s sorry. She’s admitting she should never have left you. She’s being humble. On top of this, she’s coming back super rich. Like she can’t even hurt you financially. You know in your heart you still love her, you always will.
I know a lot of people are saying "you don’t go back to ex’s", and "look what happened in Nebraska"… I think you mean well with your commentary. But given the chance to right a wrong, reconcile a love lost under favorable circumstances. I just think most people would go for it. I realize UCF shouldn't make coaching decisions based purely on emotion, and I hope TMO is doing everything he can to secure the best coach possible. But I thought I'd have some fun with the ex girlfriend narrative for those of you that like to read. And I say let’s go get Frosty, because he fits. It's just as simple as that. If it doesn't work out there will be up-n-coming OC's and G5 HC's to choose from in a couple years, just like there are now.
