The document asserts, for instance, that “referring to ‘husband/boyfriend’ of women, ‘wife/girlfriend’ of men who are coworkers instead of partner/spouse … sets the expectation that people do not identify as LGBTQ until they say otherwise or disclose their sexual orientation.
What if my male coworker describes his partner/spouse as his husband? Can I now refer to his husband as his husband, or do I need to say his partner/spouse?
Even a simple compliment like “I love your shoes,” at least when addressed to a woman in leadership during a Q&A after a speech, really means “I notice how you look and dress more than I value your intellectual contributions. How you look is really important.
I get not saying it during the Q&A, but can I compliment them later? Are compliments even allowed there anymore? Personally, I like it when someone tells me they like my shoes. Or my outfit. Or that my hair looks good today.
...while using expressions such as “I’m totally OCD about my files” and “I get ADHD sometimes” “minimizes the experiences of people who live with mental health issues.
But I do have OCD, and a humorous self awareness. So, can I joke about myself? Because if you move my files or put them in the wrong order, I am gonna have an issue with it.
...while asking “Where are you from?” implies that “you are not American and do not belong to this community....
Or it implies that you're not from this city. I'm not from this city. I love to hear where people moved here from, and hear interesting things about their hometown. A bunch of people moving here from all over is what makes this area awesome.
This whole thing is stupid. And dumb.
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