I honestly don't concern myself with such things, and use 'spouse' to be generic. Besides, enough SJWs are 'looking for an argument,' even if not the actual person or their spouse, especially with white males like me.
The fire could have been an accident ... gasoline on clothes after mowing. It really all depends, and I guess I'd have to read the report.
That said ... I don't know why people were talking about returning donations. The fire still took down a house ... a house that wasn't theirs. Unless insurance covers a tenant that commits arson.
In any case ... I find interesting that a Church was helping with the center, and how much people demonize Churches these days over LGBTQ issues. It seems like people cannot separate the right-wing religious mouthpieces from actual, real, Churches.