At least I think that's the correct terminology for it...
Short story is this... I have a suspicion my wife has begun having an emotional affair with one of her long time male friends who was mutual to her before our marriage. They never dated from what I know, however, he is recently divorced. His marriage lasted all of about a 8 months and began and ended during our time of marriage. He has gotten a bit to close for my comfort in their casual conversation lately outside if how's the job, how life etc. I have always been a pretty logical person and never one to be the "jealous" type in our 4 years together but they say where there is smoke there is fire and based on what I have observed from afar, it leaves me at a bit of unease. I believe we have a healthy relationship, financially stable, good work/life balance, and from what I can tell the whole intimacy factor and pushing me away hasnt been an issue.
My question is this..Do i sit back and observe and wait for someone to hang themselves with some type of proof and then go bat shit crazy or do i make a play to talk to the wife now and just make my concerns known directly to her and tell her for my sanity to cut communication.
At this point I only suspect conversation has turned a bit more personal but I am not cool with my wife discussing our personal matters with a recently divorced man. Her rational for the increased text is "he is going through a tough time." They were friends long before we were married and only casually chatted before the past month so that's what got me suspicious. Im typically pretty good with my instincts and feel that this will end up shitty with me coming off as the jealous/insecure husband either way I take it.
So what would the cooler do? Has anyone gone through this and what was the result?
Short story is this... I have a suspicion my wife has begun having an emotional affair with one of her long time male friends who was mutual to her before our marriage. They never dated from what I know, however, he is recently divorced. His marriage lasted all of about a 8 months and began and ended during our time of marriage. He has gotten a bit to close for my comfort in their casual conversation lately outside if how's the job, how life etc. I have always been a pretty logical person and never one to be the "jealous" type in our 4 years together but they say where there is smoke there is fire and based on what I have observed from afar, it leaves me at a bit of unease. I believe we have a healthy relationship, financially stable, good work/life balance, and from what I can tell the whole intimacy factor and pushing me away hasnt been an issue.
My question is this..Do i sit back and observe and wait for someone to hang themselves with some type of proof and then go bat shit crazy or do i make a play to talk to the wife now and just make my concerns known directly to her and tell her for my sanity to cut communication.
At this point I only suspect conversation has turned a bit more personal but I am not cool with my wife discussing our personal matters with a recently divorced man. Her rational for the increased text is "he is going through a tough time." They were friends long before we were married and only casually chatted before the past month so that's what got me suspicious. Im typically pretty good with my instincts and feel that this will end up shitty with me coming off as the jealous/insecure husband either way I take it.
So what would the cooler do? Has anyone gone through this and what was the result?